If you’re not experiencing the kind of success you’d like, it’s likely that you’re exhibiting self-defeating behavior. If you’re engaged in these kinds of actions, it’s crucial to determine what’s going on and change it.
The Waiting Game
If you’ve ever heard yourself saying, “I’ll be do that when xyz” then put it down right now. “When I lose weight I’ll go hiking.” “When I finish this client’s work I’ll write my novel.” This is all logical, but it’s a game that won’t ever end. If you don’t act now, nothing will change.
You hang around the People who aren’t the right People
Even as an adult, you may pick the wrong people. If you find yourself constantly in conflict with your friends their values and objectives in life, or you find yourself being apologizing for the actions of others or actions, it’s just a way to avoid a painful conclusion. You’ve outgrown your peers.
Saying: “I’ll never… “
Complete the sentence about the things you don’t say or do, or even think about. If you aren’t convinced that you will be successful in your business or shed that weight, you probably will not. It is important to imagine the kind of success you wish to attain to make it happen. If everything that you can see are negative, it’s the only thing you’ll see.
I don’t want to do “It” Alone
We’re all in the end alone. If you are waiting for everyone else to be in the same boat as you, you could be missing out on a fantastic new experience. If it’s about starting a new company, going to a film or trying out a new restaurant, you are able to take on the task yourself, without anyone other than you.
Think you’re not “Smart” As…
There will always be someone who is going to be more intelligent, beautiful, or more attractive than you. If you claim that you’re not someone is going to give you difficult time getting out of the box that you’ve placed yourself in. Let go of who you think you are and just do what you’d like to do. There is no need to be perfect.
You Cover Your Feelings
If someone asks you questions regarding your feelings, you just say “I’m fine”and keep it that way – even when you’re not. Do you realize that it’s possible to be stuck in a particular mentality if you don’t acknowledge it and do not talk about it? It is important to identify the issue to alter it.
My Client Wants Me
Everybody is replaceable. If you find that your relationship with someone just because you believe they’re in need of you, even if it’s not working for them it’s a waste of time. Someone who’s not compatible with you will leave you as soon as they meet an individual they’re compatible with. Do not do anyone a favor except if you really would like to.
You’re Not Supported by a System
Support comes in various types, from support by a person to support via electronic. If you establish an effective system that helps keep to your plan (whether it’s for fun or work) and seek help whenever you require it, you’ll succeed more than if you do not take the time to do this.